Happy Halloween! Hope you guys have a fun night planned! I think Josh and I might take Lochlyn trick-or-treating to a few friends houses to show her off. I hope she is feeling better so we can go. After Lochlyn goes to bed I am hoping for a movie night. Amanda inspired me to watch The Nightmare Before Christmas!
My sick little girl, all bundled up
Today I want to talk about goals. Goals are a bit of a tough subject for me. I am very much a type A personality, and a perfectionist. I don’t like to set goals that I could potentially fail at. Usually, if I don’t follow-through with a goal perfectly, I give it up altogether and forget about it.
I think that it is human nature to always want to be improving. This can be a good and a bad thing. I don’t want to constantly be striving to be something else, and to not enjoy where I am at in life at the moment. At the same time, there are areas that I want to work on in order to improve my life, and the lives of those around me.
I have seen other bloggers post monthly goals and I think it is a good way to stay accountable. I can’t change my mind about these goals once I have posted them on the Internet, can I? I plan on making goals that will challenge me, which I accept means that I won’t always be perfect at trying to follow them. I usually try to live a pretty intuitive life, and don’t love the idea of setting a bunch of “rules” to control me. These goals are more like guidelines. I don’t want them to be set in stone 100% of the time, but they are things I think that will make my life better.
I feel like I could make a super long list of what I want to accomplish in this next season, but I am choosing to keep it short and sweet. It will be easier to accomplish my goals if I narrow them down to a few that are most important to me right now and that I really want to work on. Also, I was going to make these goals for the month of November, but I have decided to just plan on them being short term goals, and I will review at them in a few weeks and see how I am doing.
So, here they are. My list of goals for the fall:
1. Start reading my Bible daily
I haven’t been consistent in reading my Bible for a couple of months and I miss it a lot. Reading it really helps me stay grounded in my relationship with God and recognize when I need a mindset shift. It helps me to stay positive and it is a great way to relax at the end of the day. I plan to read at the end of the day before bed. I usually spend this time checking the Internet on my phone, which I already do about a million times a day anyways.
2. Set time aside weekly to spend together as a family
I always have the best intentions to spend some quality time together as a family on the weekend, but life usually gets the better of me. I end up leaving groceries, food prep, cleaning, or whatever until the weekend, and then I don’t have the time to spend it with the people that matter most to me. Before we had Lochlyn, Josh and I always made Sunday our “family day”. We wouldn’t make plans with friends during the day, or do work around the house. This was our designated day to spend together. I want to keep this tradition, even if we only get to spend an hour or two together, rather than the whole day.
I am going to start doing groceries on Fridays or Saturdays, and make an effort to keep Sundays open. I also will start planning things we can do together as a family, like go for walks, go swimming, or even just go out for a coffee date. This Sunday we are going to the Christmas Market in town! So excited! (The Christmas Market is like a farmer’s market, but with Christmas stuff!!)
3. Get back into running
I mentioned in this post that I am thinking about running a 10K in the spring next year. I am starting to consider running a half marathon after the 10K too, we will see. I haven’t done very much running since before I got pregnant, and I want to get back into it. I plan on starting to run three times a week. I want to build up my endurance, and see if I enjoy it enough to train for a half marathon. I actually started adding running into my workouts this week (before Lochlyn got sick!) and I am loving it!
4. Unplug from technology
On Wednesday I found myself googling random things on my phone while Lochlyn and I were playing together … not cool. I was more interested in what I could look up on the Internet than in my baby girl. This is okay once in awhile, but I had spent most of the afternoon on the computer already during her naps, and I was looking up things that I didn’t even care that much about. I find myself on my phone countless times during the day, including when I am eating, or even while I am brushing my teeth. This is craziness. How can I expect my little one to not be technology crazy when she sees me constantly on the Internet?
My goal is to set technology aside while I am spending time with other people. This could be my husband, my baby, other friends and family, or even strangers. I think we can use our phones in particular as a way to avoid conversation with someone we don’t know. For example, I see so many people at the gym that are always glued to their phones between sets – what are they looking at anyways? I think that it is a way to avoid contact with others around you. So, for now, the internet on my phone is for morning and evening nursing sessions (Lochlyn takes 30-40 minutes to eat, so I use this time to catch up on other blogs and social media). The rest of my day is for my family, friends, and for myself!
5. Pay more attention to my body’s hunger and fullness cues
I have mentioned Intuitive Eating on the blog a few times. I am currently reading this book and am really liking it.
I have been paying a lot of attention to how I eat and why, and I am noticing that I am not very good at feeding my body when it is hungry, and at stopping when I am full. I think this is because I have spent so many years dieting, and completely ignoring what my body wants and needs. This month I want to be more conscious of how my body is feeling before I eat, and on feeding it when I am hungry, and stopping when I am satisfied.
I thought about keeping a food journal to record this, but to be honest, I suck at food journals. This goes back to my perfectionist, type A personality, combined with being a busy, on-the-go mom. Sometimes I just don’t have time to write in a journal. When I don’t write in the journal, my perfectionism kicks in, says I have failed, and it all goes out the window. Rather than keeping a journal, I am just going to take a moment before eating to pay attention to what my body is feeling. I also plan to take breaks while eating to check in and see whether or not I am full yet.
My goal of unplugging more from technology should help me with this. It will be easier to pay attention to how my body is feeling when I am not distracted by my phone!
I had to include this section because I am ridiculous and could probably make 20 goals if I allowed myself. These are more task-oriented things that I would really like to get done this month. Since I only allowed myself five goals, if these don’t get done, that is okay too!
– Get the majority of my Christmas shopping done (this is a big stretch – I am a late Christmas shopper, and now I have a baby!)
-Figure out what I am going to do for an income in January when my maternity leave payments are done (Talk to my old employers to see if there is the option to work there part time while Josh isn’t working)
-Get our old car towed from the back yard (Our Ford Escort has been sitting in our yard for over a year now, it needs too much work to sell it, but I want to get it towed before winter)
-Set up an RESP account for Lochlyn (this has been a goal for over 6 months now!)
I plan to write a follow-up post on these goals at the end of fall, or around the beginning of December. I guess fall is already almost over here, these goals are a little late coming, but better now than never!
What is one of your major goals for this next season?
Food journaling? Am I the only one that can’t handle it?