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Today I want to chat a little bit about something that we all do, or at least I do way more than I would like to admit: Judging others, particularly, judging other people’s bodies. I hate that I do this, but this is HonestlyAngela after all, so I really do need to be honest. Before I get into it though, I want to step back for a second and put all this judgement talk into context for you.
I have been noticing a popular trend within our culture lately. Actually I am not quite sure if it is a trend so much as just an aspect of our culture, which makes it even more sad. I am not quite sure I will be able to articulate what I want to say in a way that will accurately explain it, but here it goes….
This trend is something that has been on my mind for a while, but what really got me thinking about it was something that happened a couple of days ago.
It all started when I noticed the uncomfortable chafing between my legs that I sometimes get from running has been getting significantly worse. This post isn’t about chafing, don’t worry! A quick explanation is that I have bigger thighs, and when I run, they rub, and it can get pretty uncomfortable.
Anyway, I decided to google some simple solutions to my problem so I can fix it before it gets too out of hand. My Google search led me to a site that described how to avoid “chub rub”. “Chub rub” is pretty much just chafing between your thighs that happens when you have big legs and you wear dresses and its hot and well… yeah you get the picture.
The site that I ended up on was some sort of “fat pride” site. No, it wasn’t called that, but it seemed to be glorifying being “overweight”. The website made me feel like I was an outsider in this insider’s club of women that were “fat” and proud of it. I never really realized that this club existed before.
I have written about how I believe that it is important to love your body where it is at in this moment, not where you think it should be. I believe this. I believe it is important to love your body whether you are underweight, or overweight, or somewhere in between. I don’t believe that being healthy means falling within a certain BMI range. To me, health is about living a lifestyle that incorporates habits that will help you live a satisfying and full life both physically and emotionally.
According to that definition, it is possible to be overweight and healthy, and it is possible to be at what is considered a “healthy weight” and still be unhealthy.
What I didn’t like about that website was the way that it glorified being “fat”. I don’t believe that being overweight is something that needs to be celebrated, just like I don’t believe that being “thin” should be idolized and considered better than the alternatives. I also don’t believe that having big muscles, or a big booty, or large breasts, or whatever else should be idealized, and yet there is constantly something new that we think of as desirable. Usually it is crazy exploited by at least one form of media, and leads to us feeling inferior, or lacking.
Our culture has ingrained the belief so deeply within our mindset that thin=good/healthy, fat=bad/unhealthy. I feel like the website I stumbled across was a way for overweight women to speak out against the idea that thinness is ideal. I just don’t think they realize that they are doing the exact same thing as magazines that exploit thinness, only opposite. They are exploiting and idealizing “fatness”. Your body is your own. I believe you have the right to be the best you that you can be, and you should be able to do that without feeling judged.
I am personally attempting to get past the judgemental mindsets of thin vs. fat and healthy vs. unhealthy. I want to learn to stop judging people altogether for their weight and their bodies. I don’t know other peoples’ stories, and I can’t tell how healthy they are from what they look like.
I have personal experience that should teach me that health isn’t something that you can see. I feel like I am the healthiest I have ever been, and yet I am a lot heavier than I used to be. At my thinnest I was crazy unhealthy, both emotionally and physically. Even at what was considered a “healthy weight”, I was struggling with an eating disorder that was controlling my life.
There is nothing wrong with being thin, some people can be thin and perfectly “healthy”. There is nothing wrong with being fat if you are living a “healthy” lifestyle for you, and being completely honest with yourself about it. Everyone is different.
Cultivating a positive body image of ourselves is hard enough without feeling judged by the rest of the world. Do yourself and favour and stop judging others. An added bonus to this is that you will stop assuming that everyone else is judging you.
Do you agree with my definition of healthy?